Do you ever feel so overwhelmed with life, people, things, stress … simply just an overwhelming feeling that feels like the sky is about to fall down on you and you desperately need a way out otherwise you won’t be able to breath? … Don’t worry, I have just the right solution for you, not saying it is the only solution, but it is definitely a very effective one.
So how do we calm the fxxx down and get our life back on track? First, we need to find the sources of the problem, often the overwhelming feelings are caused by 2 things: Anxiety and Depression. When our mind worries too much about the future, we tend to feel anxious, and often we get anxiety attacks when experiencing extreme scales. Depression, on the other hand, can be quite opposite of anxiety. We often fall into the depression hole when we lingering too much in the past and keep drilling down on the thoughts for something that has happened in the past, which we think might have impacted on our current life if we have done it differently. However, there is nothing we can do in the present moment to alter our past. What’s been done has already done. We also shouldn’t worry too much about the future for things that haven’t even happened yet. The only control we can have with full steer is the present moment. Being present helps us to regain control of our thoughts and be engaged. Therefore, we need to train our brain to pull our mind back to the present moment, when we are feeling anexious or depressed. So… how do we bring the mind to the present moment without dwelling down the past or worrying too much about the future?
My answer to that is – meditation. That’s no new concept to everyone. However, most of us also have doubts in the powerfulness of meditation. To honest, I personally didn’t believe in it, till I started practicing regularly this month and not just me have noticed the changes within me, but also the people around me have started noticing the glow on me from inside out. You might not have faith in meditation itself, but you should give it a chance to prove you wrong J
This post is not about teaching you how to meditate. There are many different ways to meditate and each one of us might have our own preferred method: you can either start with a group session, using one of those guided apps on your phone or just simply meditate on your own. I found the guided apps are probably the most accessible and easier to focus (There are a few popular ones like Headspace, Calm, Buddhify and Mindfullness, which you can download from the app store.) You can literally find a place anywhere, sit down, plug in your head phones and start to meditate, especially when you are going through some hot thoughts and desperately need to cool down; or when you need to regain your concentration back for work; or just simply need it to kick start your day. You may also choose to meditate during different times throughout the day. I personally found it is much easier to meditate in the morning for beginners like me. I found myself easier to focus and engage with the present moment when my mind is less clouded. I often find my mind filled with tasks that I need to complete and random thoughts about things happened during the day towards the end of the day, and therefore, I struggled a little to engage with present moment when I tried to meditate before bedtime. So I decided to schedule 30 minutes of my morning time, right after I rise from my bed each morning to meditate. It also helps me to engage with the positive energy before I kick start an awesome day.
What is your secret of calming down and regain focus when you are going through an emotional roller-coaster? Would love to hear more about how you cope with you down time, so can all learn from each other.